When I first began sharing my story, I made it clear to others that I did it at a time when I knew the time was right.
And even then, from the time I felt God had given me the green light to the time I actually went public with my story, the breaks were partially on since I only shared my story with my family and a handful of friends.
Look, if you’re going to use stories in your business, you don’t have to use the one that makes you break down into an emotional wreck!
At least for now – and forever if it suits you – choose another story. One where the outcome has brought you joy and transformation and has the potential to have the same impact on your audience.
Personal storytelling in business doesn’t mean you have to be uncomfortable each time you’re asked to take centre stage and share your story.
You could take what seems to be an insignificant story and extract great value from it that could bring healing and transformation to another person.
This is one of the reasons I really am not an advocate of the heroes journey style of personal storytelling.
It put’s too much pressure on the author to try and come up with some some kind of hollywood style, motion picture story. And all too often, when people try to relay these types of story, they sound fake. Just sayin. 🙂
So, choose a story that you’re eager to tell and make it relevant to your audience by extracting the value (the lesson and meaning) out of it that you know your audience are going to “get.”
But, whether you share your story publicly or not …
You Gotta Do This One Thing For You …
Take the time to make sense of your life stories.
Irrespective of whether or not you’re ready to share them with anyone else.
For each significant story or moment in your life, ask yourself:
- What impact did that particular experience have on you and what meaning does that experience hold for you to this day?
- Who did you become as a result of the experience? And …
- What choices did you make as a result of the experience
- How might that decision you made as a result of the experience be impacting you now as an adult?
Once you make sense of these life experiences, you’ll free yourself from the emotions you’ve attached to them and in so doing what you believed about yourself will also change.
And the big plus …
Once you detach the emotions from the life experiences, you will find your voice which will empower you to become more of who you really are.
No longer will you have to live hidden behind your story, and you might even feel liberated enough to share your experience with others as you become free to be you.
You Are Not Your Story!
Okay, so now I challenge you to go do this.
Don’t complicate it, simply recall the experiences and then write out the answers to the questions outlined above.
And the reason for writing rather than rehearsing it in your mind but the way, is that when you write, it helps you process your emotions and enables you to work through any inner conflict or feelings around a particular situation.
If you do this exercise and it has helped you, I’d love for you to share your thoughts so you can be an inspiration to others.