Taking 100% responsibility for your life doesn’t mean it’s your fault. It simply puts you in control to fix what’s not working.
Now, when you tell some people that they have to take 100% responsibility for their lives, they will give you all the reasons they can’t move forward. They’ll rehearse all of the negative things that have happened in their past, who has hurt them and the life events that have broken them.
What they’re however failing to realise, is that they have a choice … a choice to either remain hostage in the prison that they themselves have created, or they can choose to create a new reality. One based on what they want their lives to look like.
By focusing on what they want, rather than what was, they take back the power to dream again and create a life that’s fulfilling and happy despite what their past may have looked like. And the bonus is that they now have the opportunity to release others from their prison.
The first time I ever heard someone talk about taking 100% responsibility for your life, was in 2004, prior to a Jack Canfield seminar.
Whilst it’s not in my DNA to go around blaming people for my past (though we are all prone to at some stage in our lives), Jack Canfield made me realise, I am responsible for my success. And if I don’t have to look to others to “make” me successful, I have the power to become successful independent of other people. And the beauty is that no one can hold me back either.
Now, don’t get me wrong, the road to success is not a one man/woman road. We all need people to become successful. You need people to buy from you, to advise you, to do work for you. You need people to talk about you (positively I hope) and yes, to give you feedback when necessary too. But you do the positioning.
You’re responsible for making the moves in the right direction and you’ll meet the right people along the way who will take you to those places and introduce you to those people you couldn’t have done alone.
Waiting for someone to discover you is not the mindset of a winner and will eventually backfire! Even if you were fortunate enough to be discovered, with that kind of “waiting” mentality, it wouldn’t be long before the person who discovered you would feel the need to walk away.
Make people want to work with you, want to do business with you and want to praise you by keeping focused on your future and not your past, and on what’s possible now, not on what happened yesterday.
I promise you, it will serve you well.
Keep the dream alive,
Trish Jones is a Speaker, Storytelling Coach and Author, who empowers and equips women to create a business and life that's in harmony with who they are - from the inside out - by bringing more of their personality, their voice and their message to the marketplace. Download her success blueprint to find out more ... The Influential Woman PinkPrint.
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